I am back in
Singapore after 2 weeks on the road.
I am battered.
I only went to
India and Nepal but travel wearies me more now as I age.
Airports and
planes annoy and bore me.
As I sorted
through my accumulated mail I was surprised to see an envelope from Israel.
Inside was a
hand-written letter and a wedding invitation from an Israeli lesbian couple I
met some years ago.
Their names are
Maya and Liat.
They were getting
married and I was invited to the celebration.
Fancy that.
I know many Jewish
people and have Jewish blood in my veins. From my mother’s mother side – which
apparently qualifies me as Jewish.
My children though
have much diluted blood and are not qualified as Jewish.
Suck ‘em Thomas
and Charlotte.
I met the Jewish
Israelis lesbians Maya and Liat only once – in the Club street district of
Singapore at a friend’s farewell.
He was returning
to the Untied Kingdom.
To the city of
Bath in fact.
Ironically he has
since returned.
There was no party
for his return.
Maya and Liat were
amongst half a dozen Israelis in who happened to be at the same venue as our
farewell group.
They were all
women and of various ages.
I was quite
surprised when they collectively announced to me when I said hello that they
were all lesbians.
I recall being a
little taken aback at this unexpected declaration and I didn't really know how
to respond.
I think that I
simply congratulated them.
I then told them
that I was a heterosexual.
It was a bit
strange.
Of the group I
mostly chatted to Liat and Maya.
They were then a
couple.
When I asked them
why they thought that it was necessary to tell me that they were all lesbians
they looked at me in a fairly blank fashion and said, "Because ve
are"
They were also initially quite aggressive and informed me that, "All men are
peegs".
I told them that
simply didn't make any sense and they got a bit arrogant and petulant.
Israelis are a bit
like this.
I quite like it.
When I enquired "Israeli men are all pigs?'
"Beeg
peegs" Maya
replied.
"You think
this too"
I asked Liat.
She shrugged in a
non-committal manner.
"I assume
that you both have fathers? Are they pigs"
"You are
calling my father a peeg?" Maya demanded.
Her aggression was delighting me.
Her aggression was delighting me.
"No I am
just asking. You said all men are pigs"
"He ees
not a peeg"
I chatted for ages
with Liat and Maya.
They chilled out after
a while when they realized that I was neither drunk nor being sleazy.
I meant no harm.
They had then just
completed their national service and were doing a whirlwind tour of Asia before
going back to serve in the Israeli army.
I think they also
warmed to me when I told them of my Hungarian Jewish heritage
My Hungarian
grandmother was a mad woman.
She lived until
her late nineties and was as mad as a cut snake my whole life.
Perhaps her whole
life.
She was
certifiable.
I am very curious
about people who live in places where bombs are dropped and guns are shot at
people so I asked the lesbian Israelis what it was like living in a country
that was surrounded by Arab people who wanted to exterminate them. I have asked
other Israelis and Palestinians I have encountered the same question.
I am not sure of
their sexual preference - nor am I particularly interested.
Why the hell would I?
We are not morally defined - in any way - by our sexual preferences.
Grow up if you think otherwise.
Bigotry is ignorance.
Why the hell would I?
We are not morally defined - in any way - by our sexual preferences.
Grow up if you think otherwise.
Bigotry is ignorance.
Maya and Liat told me that living
in a place where bombs regularly blow up was very difficult and stressful.
I thought it might
be.
I have already
made reference to the fact that I have talked about such matters to both
Israelis and Palestinians before and can only imagine what it would be like.
I often repeat
myself.
I often repeat
myself.
Living amongst
such constant violent conflict must be a real bitch.
It must be
terrifying.
I was surprised
when they informed me that they had many Palestinian friends and that they
thought that Israel should remain out of Gaza.
I told them that I
agreed that Palestine should be allowed to rule it's own destiny.
In the letter that
came with the wedding invitation from Maya and Liat - they informed me that
there would be lots of good Jewish food at the wedding celebration including
Borsch. They signed both the letter and the wedding invitation with their names
and, "See you later Alligator".
I taught the Israeli lesbians this when I last saw them.
We talked a lot
about Australian and Israeli sayings and slang and language in the Club Street
pub and I told them that an Australian farewell tradition was when someone
would declare, "See you later Alligator" the correct and polite response would be to
say, “In a while crocodile"
They Israelied it "In
a vile croocodile"
The
reference to the “lots of good Jewish food” in the letter was that much of our
last (and only) in-person conversation was about Australian and Israeli food.
Mostly
about Jewish food though.
I like
Jewish food
Most
people know that we Jews are forbidden to eat pig however few outside the faith
know that we are also prohibited to also eat hare or camel as well.
We are
only able to eat meat from beasts that are hoven.
That
has hoofs.
Or is
it hooves?
Curiously
the spell-check function on my Mac rejects neither of them.
Hooves
and hoofs.
I eat
a lot of bacon and ham.
I love
it.
I am a
non-practicing Jew.
I
attribute my love of Jewish food to the Jewishness that flows through my blood
from my mother’s mother’s side.
My
grandmother - the Hungarian mad woman.
I
attribute my love of bacon and ham to my Dad and his Dad before him.
My
relatives on my dad side were fishermen and priests who came to Australia in
the mid eighteen hundreds from Ireland.
They
were meat eaters.
They
were fish eaters too.
The
Israeli lesbians Maya and Liat seemed to like the fact that I like Jewish food.
They
were proud and patriotic.
“Ess Gesunt” – is the Yiddish for eat in good health
I like
challah and babka and matzoh ball soup.
I like
Gefilte fish.
I like
borekas and kugal and shakshuka.
I have
trouble with borsch though.
It is
an abomination.
Beetroots
in soup seems like a cannot.
“Cannot”
in the context that I have used it is Singaporean for I-don’t-really-like-it.
I like
Jewish latkes and sufganiyot though.
I like
Rugelach.
I like
a lot of Jewish food.
I like the sound of it as well and I enjoy saying it.
It requires throaty enunciation.
I like the sound of it as well and I enjoy saying it.
It requires throaty enunciation.
The
lesbians Maya and Liat left an RSVP with their email address.
I have
already emailed congratulating them on their engagement and telling them I am
honoured and delighted to attend the wedding.
I
quite like weddings.
They
are celebrations of the union of love.
They
are joyous occasions.
The
opportunity to share in the celebration in love and joy don’t come along every
day.
We should
snatch such moments when we can.
It
will be great.